Scrapping What I’ve Written – Fifty Shades BDSM

I’m scrapping half of what I’ve written for Molly Parker and need to write some things into the first chapter and maybe change the way it’s written too. It’s all going away in some way or another and into the editing dust bin.

I do this a lot.

I’ve been outlining, developing, and researching after writing it and it’s shedding a lot of light on it. I have two of my main characters outlined in painful detail, next the third, and soon the fourth. I like my first book, I like it a lot even though it needs a solid edit. But I’m not manic right now. I don’t have that insane energy and creativity that bleeds into every page and can handle reading and writing for hours a day. But I scrapped a lot for that book too.

Blerg.

Combined with illness it makes it all go at a sluggish pace.

Double blerg.

But research is at least providing the fun factor. Damn is fifty shades getting good. Really really good. I spent last night reading the sex scene aloud to my girlfriend and it was anything but sexy. The adjective salad is also fabulous. The usual adjective word count is two or three adjectives, but a couple times four, that sometimes don’t even make sense. And everything has to have an adjective:

“His sculptured, pouty lips are parted slightly, and his shiny, clean hair is a glorious mess.”

This is after sex. Really boring sex that lasts maybe 5 minutes and he comes twice in that time frame (as a guy speaking – this is not possible). I was hoping for some actual Dom behavior: choking, restraint, begging, that sort of thing. Nope, he lasted all of two minutes. That, and his dungeon seems like it was imagined by someone who believes sex dungeons are the same thing as 16th century torture dungeons. Maybe for a sadist. And there are no swings… Or leather really. Or good ways to set up ropes in an impulsive way (no one wants to use a step ladder in the middle of sex). And what I’m describing now is bondage, sometimes going along with domination, but Dom-Sub behavior is pretty obvious. The Dom controls through words and the threat of punishment, the Sub does it (sometimes bucking for punishment). Dungeons are not really used for this since it isn’t a very aggressive form of sex. It can be, but yeah…

Anyways, EL James knows jack shit about sex in my opinion. Her first sex scene is just about the tamest high school stuff I’ve read. Fan fiction. BDSM fan fiction. But it’s hard to read without laughing. Douglas Adams kind of hilarious.

Though, more importantly, she knows nothing about why people do BDSM, though this is mainly the bondage and domination part.

If you are to write on these subjects, the obvious thing that comes up is that it’s about control. Having control, or giving up control. Control is the medium – possession and abandonment are the goals. Possession is a different way to be intimate, to become one with someone, and abandonment is literally giving oneself up to another person completely. That’s the crux of it all. It’s simple, there’s no special thing to it beyond that. Power, control, domination, submission, bondage, these are all about the tango between those two things.

Voyeurism, exhibitionism, sadism, masochism, these things are about danger (in part). Maybe I’ll write a bit about them sometime later. But for masochism, pain is part of the pleasure, the crack and bite of a whip increases the intensity of sex, the slow burn of wax makes the mind dance. But this is all just in an erotic situation. Outside of it, pain is still pain.

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